Feeling lonely is more common than you might think, especially as we get older. You may feel isolated even if you’re not completely alone. Maybe you’ve lost friends or family, moved to a new place, or just don’t have as many chances to connect with others. Whatever your situation, it’s hard to cope with loneliness as you age. 

The good news is that there are small, simple ways to feel better and build stronger social connections. Social connection is important for seniors, and it can improve our physical, emotional, and social well-being. It's never too late to reconnect. 

Why do many seniors feel lonely?

Seniors often experience loneliness because life changes can make it hard to stay socially connected as we age:

• Retirement, health problems, moving, or losing a loved one can all cut down on social interactions. 
• Hearing loss and memory problems may make conversations more difficult. 
• Seniors may also stop doing activities they love because they no longer feel confident or supported. 

Over time, all of these things can lead to having a smaller social circle, and spending more time alone. 

How does social isolation impact seniors’ health and wellbeing?

Feeling lonely or being socially isolated doesn’t just affect your mood. It can also hurt your physical and mental health.

Loneliness and isolation are linked to:

• A higher risk of heart disease, stroke, and dementia
• Memory loss and brain decline
• Depression and anxiety
• Poor sleep
• A higher risk of falling

Seniors who are afraid of falling often avoid going out or joining activities. This leads to more time alone, which increases both fall risk and feelings of isolation. It can become a cycle that’s hard to break, but not impossible. 

Why does social connection matter?

Social connection matters because spending time with others is important for your body and your brain. People with strong social connections are more likely to stay independent, recover faster from illness, and even live longer. In fact, research shows that people with strong relationships have a 50% higher chance of living longer than those who are more isolated. Keep reading for specific tips on coping with loneliness as you age. 

How can I combat loneliness during life transitions?

If you’re wondering how to feel less lonely or how to stop isolating yourself, here’s how to navigate some of the most common life transitions:

Retirement

Many people look forward to retirement. But when work ends, you may lose daily social interactions with coworkers and a daily routine you’ve gotten used to. These sudden changes can lead to boredom, loneliness, and trouble finding purpose.

What you can do: 

• Create a new daily routine that includes regular social time, like coffee with a friend or joining a club.
• Explore new skills or hobbies you didn’t have time for before. Doing something you enjoy can make you feel more like yourself. If you can’t do your favorite hobby anymore, look for a version that fits your needs. Give yourself grace to explore new things, whether it’s pickleball or online dance classes with Bold.
• Use your skills for part-time work, volunteering, teaching, mentoring, or community outreach. 

Health problems or physical limitations

Changes in mobility, chronic illness, or recovering from an injury can make it harder to get out and stay involved. Many older adults begin to avoid things because of pain, fatigue, or fear of falling.

What you can do: 

• Stay active using modified exercises that work for you. For example, check out Bold’s seated classes like chair yoga. 
• Use technology to stay in touch; video calls, social media, and even texting can help.
• Find community programs that offer transportation or home visits.

Moving to a new home or city

Moving can be stressful and lonely, whether you’re relocating to be close to family or downsizing to a smaller home. You may feel disconnected without familiar faces or routines. 

What you can do:

• Introduce yourself to neighbors, or attend a local event to meet new people.
• Check out local community programs. Senior centers, libraries, and local groups often have free or low-cost events like classes, talks, games, and support groups. Many centers also offer transportation if you need help getting there. Take advantage of the resources in your area.
• Join an interest group in person or online, whether it’s book clubs, crafting, walking, or gardening.

Losing a loved one

Losing a spouse, sibling, or close friend can be very challenging. It’s normal to distance yourself from other people while you’re grieving, but long-term isolation can make things worse. When loneliness comes from deep pain, like grief or illness, support groups can help. Look for groups at your community center, health clinic, or place of worship. Talking to others who understand can make a big difference.

What you can do:

• Reach out to others. You can start small. Try calling a friend, sending a text, or making conversation with a neighbor. Even short interactions can help you feel more connected.
• Join a grief support group. Talking to others can make a big difference. Many groups are free and available online or in-person, like at your community center, health clinic, or religious congregation. 
• Talk to a counselor or therapist if you’re struggling to cope. 

Becoming a caregiver

Caring for a spouse, parent, or friend is meaningful work that can also be draining. Caregivers often feel isolated, stressed, and overwhelmed.

What you can do:

• Ask for help. You don’t have to do everything alone.
• Connect with other caregivers for advice and support.
• Look into respite care options so you can take breaks and recharge.
• Take time for yourself. Find ways to put yourself first. Try Bold’s mindfulness and emotional wellness classes.

It’s never too late to connect

You might feel like you’re the only one struggling, but you’re not. Coping with loneliness as you age is hard, and many seniors feel the same way. You can find joy and connection again, even if you haven’t felt it in a long time. All it takes is one small step, one message, or one activity. There are options for everyone, even if you're at home. Join Bold’s online community to stay connected today.